Friday 28 March 2014

Positive Blogging and Becoming Positive

"... If I have seeds and can make flowers grow the garden won't be dead at all - it will come alive." - The Secret Garden, Frances Hodgson Burnett. 
It came to me many a time that I represent myself a much more happy and positive person in my blog than I really am.  One reason is that blogging for me is a way of reflection on the small things I do and surrounded by and in which I find joy and comfort. I do share some worries and little frustrations too but all the major part of my quite anxious nature stays somewhere there as soon as I start a new post. I don’t feel like complaining and nagging, and weeping over all the problems which come in and go away. I simply cannot complain when I upload another picture of a colourful crochet work or a beautiful sunset and write a small caption to them – life becomes much much happier the same moment, I feel I am blessed with so many things that sounding off feels like a sin to me.
Of course my husband is the one who takes it all first, who always listens to me and understands, and helps to come over all the worries and doubts. Living away from your native land in another land which differs from it is not easy. Sometimes I do feel lonely here, sometimes I feel that no one understands me, that no one cares, that I am on my own … it is not true though but it makes me tougher and possibly stronger.
I am not sure why I am writing this particular post today but I “felt like it” – the words of our friend who explained why she again came to India. So I “felt like it” and writing is one of the things you are free to do because and when you feel like.
I suppose I am not alone in this thinking that at times public blog doesn’t reveal a whole person, but just a few features of his character or even can present a person quite different from who he/she actually is. I am not saying that when I show my crafts or tell little things from my life in the posts, I lie. No, it is me too but in my case - more optimistic. I really want to transfer this attitude in my routine, be it sunny or rainy, cold or hot, whatever. My baby needs a smiling and cheerful mom, and the same dad of course, who fell sick by the way, but I encourage him to get well soon (also by the means of medications and traditional home remedies – tea, honey, lemon etc). I had to keep away from him (no hugging and moreover kissing), yea, baby rules!
And about blog name change… Whatever but I am always so much thrilled with the support you get from a blogging community! I got so many responses on my latest post and I am once again thankful to all of you for giving your opinions, and at the same time supporting my decisions. I will let you know soon, as right now I am in the process of name confirmation, but need to approach my D in his busy schedule to ask his opinion too - he ultimately is also a huge part of my ramblings hereJ.
✿✿✿ Have a wonderful day,and stay positive!✿✿✿

37 comments:

  1. You changed the name of the blog? did not feel like... but I have done that several times before settling for the one I have now. And ya that was a huge researched proposal by my hubby :D During pregnancy feeling up and down is normal and normal even if your not preggy.. Loved reading your post and can quiet feel the same at times. Btw which country are you from? I always thought you were Indian
    Evu - amateurcrafts.blogspot.com

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    1. Hi Evu!
      No I haven't yet, but will do soon.
      I am Russian from Kazakhstan.. well, may be that's why I need a blog to reflect that I am in mixed marriage )Many people thought I was an Indian :)hehe

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  2. I hope your husband is feeling better soon! Like you I try not to go off about my woes and worries. In real life I suffer from terrible anxiety and panic attacks but I share very little of that on my blog. I used to, in the 'early days' (2006 or so) but I had very few readers back then. Now that my blog posts to Facebook, I have way more readers....people I know in real life....so I don't like to put too much private stuff out there. I reach out to my closest friends for support by private message rather than publicly.

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    1. Thanks Jojo, he is feeling fine now after 2 days stay home :)
      Yes, I understand your concern, even I don't share much of personal on my FB too.. Nowadays though it is much more difficult to save that privacy. Of course friend sand family are best support, but may be not always and in all the matters.

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  3. For me, blogging is like therapy. I share mostly everything, but that's because I'm naturally open (and very loud, lol).

    Your blog should be your safe place, where you put what you want. Yes, your babe needs a cheerful mom who is happy, but more than anything he needs an honest mom. Someone who is okay understanding that feeling sad about being away from everything she knew while growing up--from the parents she adores--is a natural reaction. Children should have a healthy role model to follow when it comes to showing their emotions. And who better than mom?

    P.S. My star (bit of Indian sunshine) is hanging from the plant I stare at while I write. ;-)

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    1. I also take it that way many times. Though I cannot be that loud as you :)

      I like how it sounds "my babe"! Of course, it is not possible to smile when your soul is sad, I know that my baby will need to see all the sides of person's feelings, all the colours of mood.
      It made me smile when I read about the star... I shall make of these stars and send across :)

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  4. Love your thoughts because I'm sure we all feel like that at one time or another. Hope hubby feels better.

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    1. I knew it Charlotte :) I suppose all people are alike in many ways!
      Thanks, he has almost come back to his healthy state.

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  5. I think everybody's blogging "persona" is different from their daily life. But it doesn't matter as the purpose of our blogging is our craft, or cooking, or children, or business and less about baring our soul to the world. I have also found great support and love from the blogging community. I am tempted to talk more about my personal life but sometimes I feel you never know who is reading it. So I stick to crochet. Also I don't want to drive my lovely bloggy friends away with my blahblah... :) But having said that, feel free to share your thoughts and worries as we can always use all the support we can get. I think you have adapted yourself so well to life in India which is so different from Russia it is not surprising that you do get homesick sometimes.
    Sending you lots of love and positive vibes.

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    1. You are right too, but sometimes I feel like to speak up.. something stops me or maybe I find other way to let my emotions out.
      However blogging about beautiful and happy is good, it works for me too. I also like to share my creativity here, and hey, I am displaying it for the whole world!
      Thanks Sangeetha, and thanks for positive vibes!

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  6. I think many of us are the same we all have our worries and problems but I never blog about them, even though I know if I did there would be many lovely bloggers who would be understanding and give me their best wishes. I personally like to keep my blog just for my crafty adventures and try and spread a little humour to brighten up someone's day if I can. It may change in the future who knows. I can relate to your living in another country and I know it's not easy, but you know once your little baby arrives it will help, I know it helped me. Have a lovely weekend! xxxx

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    1. I know we all a little same... same problems, same worries, same reasons for happiness.
      Thanks Linda, I also think that having a little one who will connect me and hubby more will be a good help to me :) have a nice weekend too!

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  7. Hi. I am following you again. I stopped, because you weren't blogging for a while. Happy to read that you are feeling more positive about your life in India. Hugs, Linda@Wetcreek Blog

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    1. Hi Linda! Well, it is okay, I had a little break.
      Hugs back at you!

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  8. Hello Hindustanka....Hope you are feeling happy and hopeful today. I know how hard it is to be in a culture that is different from one in which you grew up. Very hard!

    But there are good things, too. Perhaps your little one is one of them!

    You have a lot of creative talent so work on projects that make you happy when time permits.

    Take care and be happy! Susan ps Thank you so much for your visits to my blog and your comments, too.

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    1. I do feel hopeful and happy, yea! Rightly said, creativity is what keeps me sane and lifts up my mood :) I am grateful to myself for being so creative! (hehe, I love myself!)
      Thanks! You too take care Susan!

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  9. Keep positive my friend ;o) The blogging community cherishes everything you write, even if you are nagging at something! LOL! Be you ;o) I hope your hubby gets better ;o) Big Hugs ;o)

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    1. I am keeping, as much as I can, sometimes I cannot... and it is also okay :) Thanks Stacy! I will start write more of nagging boring posts (like this one) :)lol
      Big hugs back at you!

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  10. HELLO, How right ! We are so eager to talk about our work and what we see right through the different blogs, that not simply is no room for negative or share our insides , sure most do not understand, or will not want to read , so I understand very well. Perhaps many of us live different realities to what we project . The point is that at least this blogger community is more adult , and maturity are talking different situations , maybe there is more maturity, comprencion and tolerance, but not all people find that. In my case, I focus on the positives , so I prefer for many reasons , but like all difficult situations if we decided to shut up , when I give a tour of the world ' virtually ' , in a way perhaps I produce a degree of joy , forget a little sadness and continued on. I hope you feel better supported , and understood, because I think as I said before we all have our ' private ' struggles , so I hope you feel better ! Thanks for visiting! hugs , Rose M

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    1. You are definitely one positive blogger :) And also creating such a beauty! I like seeing your romantic and girly creations.
      It makes me happier too when I start writing another post, recollecting some happy moments, celebrating something.
      Thanks for a nice comment Rose Marie. Hugs!

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  11. It is always a pleasure to visit your blog..the positve stuff that you blog about is always giving the readers a positive vibe..i would love to see your blog with only in positive tone. I know we all have a negative tone also in life...but i would alwyas love to be in positive world..keep up the good work

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    1. Thanks Nima, however not easy to portray yourself positive always.So at times I let myself to share something what is bothering me, or what makes me sad :) It shall be ok too!

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  12. I think your blog is just lovely, name and all. You are honest, that is to be applauded. I am a bit more cheery on my blog than I am in real life, but I also try to be honest with what is going on, honest as much as I can to protect those around me. I think honest blogs are the best,
    Hugs to you,
    Meredith

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    1. Thanks Meredith! I like it too, but there are issues I feel I need to stop by changing the name, so I will go ahead.
      Surely, we cannot blog about everything in out lives, so even I don't. However telling something about yourself in that way makes your narrative lively I think:) Hugs back at you!

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  13. Before you start reading here, SMILE. Smile helps reduce onces' tensions and worries. Well.... Easiest way of letting go of our worries is to breathe them out. I might sound unreal. But try. It does help me. Hope you are cheerful today. Been away for long. I have missed quite a few of your posts. Take care dear and have a wonderful weekend.

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    1. Aishwarya, thanks! I am perfectly fine, it is just I wanted to speak out what I ha din my head, so I did and appreciate your support!
      Even I missed some fo your posts, need to get back to them :)
      Take care and have a nice day!

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  14. I think many of us bloggers are not necessarily completely the person we try to represent in our posts. I wouldn't want to let everybody take a lot into my inner soul. I also don't like to complain or be negative in my posts. However, I also feel that a certain part of me is lacking as well.
    I understand what it means to live in a different country. I have almost the same feelings sometimes as you describe here. I don't really miss my native country, but I miss certain aspects of it. My way of thinking is different, and that sometimes is really difficult. One might think that because both USA and Germany are countries of the Western world that the difference is not that big - but jeez, USA is another world, and one that often lets me shake my head in disbelief and wonder.

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    1. I know you know, many people can relate :) We all are travellers, many moved from their native places to other countries for different reasons... I know I am not alone and I am happy I can find such understanding among all of you!

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  15. I hope you come to a decision that makes you happy. We're all your friends and like you the way you are. ((hugs)), Teresa :-)

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    1. Thanks Teresa! One of the best comments so far :)hehe.
      I am glad I can share here! Hugs!

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  16. Hugs for you and the quote from 'The Secret Garden". I loved that book and how uplifting it is, suggesting that time and hope and growing things can heal terrible wounds. As for your blog, it's your blog. It belongs to you! For you to write and edit and create as you want. That's what so wonderful about the internet. Don't worry about talking about difficult things if you need to. People are very helpful and positive.

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    1. I am still reading it and enjoying a lot! I think I am in love with Yorkshire after I read all the novels involving it :) I wish to run on the moors and hear that wuthering!
      Thanks, the support here is huge, but I still would like to accumulate positiveness more than anything! Yea!

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  17. Dear Anna, we all have daily issues and problems. That is just a part of life. We are also all human and so emotions can sometimes rule the day. I choose to be positive and happy but when I get in my car and drive to school and have to deal with idiots that don't know what they are doing or where they are going, then I cuss like a sailor. :) When I get to school and work my butt off while others piddle the day away, I get really pissed, but I stay in my space and don't bother with them. When I get home and there's much work and cleaning to do, I feel overwhelmed. When the weather is dusty as it is now, I just feel blah. But those are not the things I want to blog about. You are right, blogging keeps our focus on the positive. My purpose for blogging is not to sell something or spout off or discuss religion or politics or any of those things. It is to share the good things in life. We are all blessed in so many ways. I think just about everyone one of us can relate to how you are feeling. It doesn't make you a fraud. It makes you normal. :) Take care and have a great week. Hugs and blessings, Tammy

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    1. Tammy what a nice day described by you! Lol...
      I also feel like that at times... but yes, thinking of all the good thigns we have in life, and thank goodness, a peaceful sky above, I try to keep calm and enjoy the day I am having. Take care too and have a nice week too! All the good things right back at you!

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  18. It's nice to read about your blogging making you happy, that's how it should be :) And I've been wondering about you blog name, I'm curious about what you will change it too.

    For me, my blog and blog name are a safe starting point. Where I have set the bar at my lowest, but also most common, state of mind - the depressed misanthrope. It limits people's unrealistic expectations on me, limits who choses to read my blog. I can be as crabby as I need to be, and when I'm not it's just a pleasant surprise ;)

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  19. Oooo! Your blog looks lovely!
    Yes, we all do want the positive flow of things in our life. My magical self is what I promote on my blog, as that is who my real muse is. I see things in the spiritual realm more than in the physical because, as my Down's son 'gets it' really well, he will point to the spot between his eyes and he will say 'I am right here!' He so 'gets' the fact that we are not just a body but a being with a soul and spirit. Maybe that is why he accepts everyone, everywhere as a 'brother' and 'sister' ...that is the way it should be. Peace is what we all want, after all.
    Have a glorious day!
    XO
    Teresa in California
    http://amagicalwhimsy.blogspot.com/

    P.S. Yes! I wish you could go to that marvelous Flea Market in Pasadena, California.

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  20. I enjoyed reading your post today. I think most of us feel the same way. There are quite a few things I would like to share on my blog, but then think better about it (either it's too personal or once I hit post it will be out there for all to see). I want to keep things positive. We have to find that balance.

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