Friday 11 April 2014

Where Intercultural Couples Meet

In the beginning of this blogging way, almost a year after our marriage, I made a post about our intercultural story, and how we actually met with my husband. Since the time I came to India we witnessed many many stories about an Indian boy and a girl from another country. Some of them ending in good friendship, some in marriage, some not leading anywhere and becoming just a memory for their participants. 
Living in the age of advance technology which help us to communicate with hundreds of people across the Globe had its influences on how people find each other. I'd give few points which relate to how Indo-Russian couples make it (although it is applicable to all and any mixed couple of course).
Indian Henna
1. Social networking and Internet overall. This applies to us as well, though none of us had an intention of dating a person from abroad. We started talking as friends, then started web cam chatting and phone calling, and then gradually we already couldn't imagine being apart. That was when we decided to remove the physical distance of 3000+ km in between. One more example of a cross cultural marriage which had Internet beginning, is my Singaporean friend and her Indian husband. Her incredible and touching story is here.
2. Meeting in real in girl's country of origin. My Russian friend married to an Indian, who live in the same city as we, said me many times that for her Internet way couldn't be an option at all as she seeks for stability and certainty in relationships. So she, as many other Russian girls, met her husband in Russia when he came there for study and work many years ago. 
Russian Gzhel'
3. Meeting in real in boy's country of origin (India). This also happens a lot. For the past 4 years me and D saw numerous relationships starting between a foreign girl and an Indian boy while a girl visiting India with a different purpose initially of course. This way can be a little tricky as the boy is close to his family and there  may be or may be no difficulties for a couple to proceed with their relationships (further on that in the following posts).
4. Meeting in any other country. I believe this can be the best for mixed relations, as both the participants of it are free from their country's influence and can objectively see what's going on between them, and decide their options either in their respective countries or in a third one. I know that a number of international couples choose this option  for building up or strengthening of their relations before or after marriage. 
Anyhow the mixed relationships is not easy to sustain for a number of reasons (of which I would be talking in other posts), so those who make it up to some level deserve appreciation I think. Hope the above will be helpful in some ways to somebody at least. I really enjoyed preparing this post, and I know you have something to tell too, my dears. I am going to make it a weekly post and share my experience and thoughts on various intercultural topics.
To see how truly diverse relations can be I am giving the fact that among our friends we have such mixed couples as: German-Indian, Brazilian-Indian, Polish-Indian, Russian-Indian, Singaporean-Indian, Lebanese-Indian, Belorussian-Indian, Ukrainian-Indian. Indian men certainly have something special about them ;) And yes, they like CHAI (tea) a lot! So be ready to prepare quite a few glaaasses a day when it is his weekend, that I am going to do from today on :)
Have a lovely weekend my dears!

16 comments:

  1. Cross cultural marriages and relationships are pretty common here in the USA. A lot of people meet in college.

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    1. I suppose so, as USA is so big and has peopel from all over the world! :)

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  2. Interracial and intercultural marriages are very common here in Canada because we are such a multiculturally diverse country. I can well understand how girls fall for East Indian men -- they can be very handsome indeed! I'm looking forward to hearing more of your story.

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    1. There are many Indians in canad, I know now. Who knows may be some day we will be there too :)

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  3. With the internet people from all over the world can fall in love.. it's kind of amazing.
    ((hugs)), Teresa :-)

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    1. It is Teresa! because it is becoming more and mor ecommon nowadays, so its just a modern way of meeting your love!

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  4. Very interesting post! I feel, if you are meant to be with that certain person, than you will be ;o) Nothing will stop you ;o) I am allergic to Chai tea! LOL!

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    1. How true Stacy! I think that itw as meant to be so,a nd it happened!
      lol, then have coffee :) it is ok!

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    2. I don't drink coffee either? LOL! Green tea and mint tea for me ;o) But, I guess I could make the coffee ;o)

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  5. As you already know, I met my Piano Man online. And we make a Dominican-American couple who follow different belief systems. We knew this about each other before we met face to face. It was nice to be able to speak to him for a long time before we "met." I had a few other exchanges with other guys before him, and what came out of their mouths was what made me move on. The internet and long distance relationships can be tough, but when we put our minds and hearts into it, we end up with loving partners.

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    1. Your story is wonderful Magaly! So you can relate what it is like to be in thsi relationships. I also believe that may be we actually have more undersatnding and patience towards each other :)Do we?

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  6. I love that I have such an eclectic mix of friends. I am an American married to a Palestinian who was born and raised in Kuwait. Amongst my friends, there is American/Kuwaiti; Romanian/Lebanese; Bolivian/Kuwaiti; Venezuelan/Lebanese; Greek/Lebanese; American/Syrian; Indo-Chinese/Lebanese; Kuwaiti of Welsh descent married to a Morrocan. The list goes on. Mixing of cultures is a wonderful thing. Best wishes, Tammy

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    1. I thought of you Tammy when writing this post too. Your story is amazing, and you an American living in Kuwait, far from home land... it is amazing how aperson can adapt!
      Your mixed couples circle is awesome!

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  7. Being in a Swedish-American relationship myself, I know all too well about the distance, Skypeing and longing. I was always more interested in foreign guys than my own nationality. Though, being a feminist and having had long distance relationships before this one, I always knew I would never leave Sweden again - the man would have to come live with me. Luckily I found a man who wants to live in here :)

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    1. I also understoo dmany of the challenges you had to face in last months, and I am happy you both had enough courage and strength to overcome it all ! and finally you will be together :)

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  8. My husband's uncle is married to a French lady and their kids are such a wonderful blend of both the cultures. They speak so many languages :-) They love both kinds of food. They love visiting their grandparents here in India. They try out all kinds of Indian food. The only thing they don't try is street food, poor guys they don't have as much immunity as we do ;-) :-P Hehe.
    Hope you're having a great week!
    Take care Anna!
    (And I'm waiting for you to come to Canada :-) )
    Hugs!!
    Ranjitha

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